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Let me say this to young men.
If you’re with a lady you know you’ve been badly treating her, & she still hasn’t left you.
Start reconsidering your behavior towards her.
Stop treating her badly, and start treating her the way a woman ought to be treated.
Not every woman wishes to sleep with too many men, before they find a husband.
At some point in my relationship with my wife, I was badly behaved.
I was always taking her for granted & even my firends told me that I was being unfair to her.
She didn’t leave me, she stayed despite my ill treatment.
One day, she sat me down and said..
“you see all these things you’re doing to me, the day I’ll turn my back on you, you’ve lost me forever. Even if you marry me”.
Note that last line…
“Even if you marry me”.
Some men can treat their women so badly that it will affect their
mental health & self esteem.
The woman will see herself as no good for any other man, but you.
It’s something like Stockholm syndrome.
But it’s not right.
She resents you, but can’t leave you because she doesn’t know how, or believe another man will need her.
What this will lead to, is that she will become loose.
Any man can sleep with her, just by complimenting her in ways she has never been.
She will continue to fall cheap for men because you, her man, doesn’t value her as you should do.
And she’ll not feel any remorse for it.
The day You’ll catch her, she will remind you of how badly you’ve been treating her, or how bad you treated her.
You caused it.
If you’re a man in his category, change your ways now.
Sit that lady down and apologise to her.
Start treating her better & help her regain her self esteem. She won’t forget the bad treatments but she will forgive you.
Once in a while, she’ll remind you of how you used to treat her.
Like my wife does sometimes.
“sweetie, but I really suffered in your hands o”.
She says these things when I do something that blows her mind. Don’t take it to heart.
See it as a compliment & encouragement to do more.
Whenever she reminds you of those “dark” days, draw her close, and reassure her.
Tell her this…
“my darling, for those days i treated you badly, I’m sorry. That you did not leave me, despite all shows that you saw something in me, that other ladies didn’t. Where I am today, is because of you. And where we will be in future, is still because if you”.
Those words of affirmation will go a long way to please her heart.
She will no longer be that young lady you bullied & made to feel low.
But if you don’t work on her, change your attitude, and you marry her.
What you’ve done to yourself is to marry a “slave” to your ego.
And that “slave” will be your nightmare in your marriage.
The worst thing a man can do to himself, is to marry a woman with low self esteem.
That her foolishness will be your weakest link.
Outsiders will take advantage of it, & she too, will use it to keep hurting you.
You’ll be feeling insecure.
You can’t trust her judgment.
You’ll continue to monitor her every move.
You’ll raise your voice at any slightest provocation.
You’ll want to know everyone she’s on phone with.
You won’t trust her friends.
All these, because you know you bullied her, into marrying you.
Don’t marry your “slave”.
Marry the woman you were kind to, & the one that changed you.
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Agba John Doe. [@Jon_d_doe]. (2023, June 12). Let me say this to young men. [Tweet].
https://x.com/jon_d_doe/status/1668165203995906048?t=-b7NjTbmbGHY7eCHFFWUog&s=19
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