Reply To: Am I wrong to Choose to hang out with my boys instead of helping my girlfriend with a family event?

[Onyinye]

This situation can be looked at from different angles but communication is what matters.

According to the context of the story, you probably should have attended this gathering more than once. This gathering holds twice a year and it is obvious that the time for this event isn’t fixed. I don’t think you were wrong for hanging out with your friends because it is clear that you were given a short notice (all your plans shouldn’t have to revolve around something that is uncertain) but what matters is how you made that known to your girlfriend. After all, you shouldn’t be the only one to compromise. She’s not wrong for being sad that you aren’t there, that only shows how much she loves you but I am sure you would have let her know about your plans even before it was finalised. She could as well reason from your point of view .

 

Relationship is about compromise and honestly, there’s no correct answer to this question 🥲.